Mary Vine

Romance 101

Monica Moore of the University of Missouri did a study on flirting, spending many hours observing and recording numerous situations and learned there is an art to flirting. Her work included describing and understanding flirting and what role it plays in human courtship.

I’ve always wondered about flirting. After all it seems to me it is a negative thing to be called a flirt. To fight the label we females sometimes try to curtail our advances (except in private). I also remember having mixed emotions about it-was I wrong (too forward, or aggressive) to get in his “face?” Maybe so, but it sure felt good. So is it a right or wrong thing to do?….

Ms Moore states that it is simply nonverbal courtship signaling, and that it is helpful to males so that it is not such a burden to make the first move. Yes, a natural thing. She found that nonverbal courtship signaling, which she considers to be flirting, is a process that is a must and that “flirting may be the single most important thing a woman can do to increase her attractiveness.” I wish someone would have told me this way back when…….